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      Sorry to hear about your brother and I hope he is doing ok. Make sure you tell your doctor about it as well, they often pay more attention when there is a family member who has gotten a certain kind of cancer. Hugs to you and your family.

General Discussion / Re: Worried about getting dementia......
« on: June 22, 2018, 09:31:14 AM »
  I think that now it has been mentioned you are more aware of the times when you forget things. We all have them I used to remember names of people when I met them now if I don't write there name down I can't remember them two min later. Go into a room and can't remember why I went there. It can be scary to worry about such things. My father suffered from it but functioned on his own until his death. There are new and emerging meds as well they can to so much for people. But I think you are just focused on the things you get wrong. Being home all day I not only forget what day it is but sometimes the month too. Not going out to work can muddle those things. But doing any tests will help to give you peace of mind and even if they find something you can get ahead of it with meds and other things. Try not to worry too much.

 Wondering how people feel about the promises by those running for office on the funding for mental health? Are there questions that you think we should ask when or if we have contact with them?
 I personally don't think they will put the funding where it is really needed. I believe that many people think "fixing" those with mental illnesses is easy quick and it just requires people to go to their doctors and get the "pill" for their mental illness. I find many don't understand that just because people may look Ok on the outside that working or not being able to work is a cop out. I also find so many who think depression is also one of those things that you just need to pull up your boot straps and do it. Wait times are clearly an issue and not just for young people. There isn't a time line for helping somone who needs treatment but they clearly think their is. I want to put some hard question to those running for office and a promise that they won't leave people and their families to fend for themselves in getting help. Thoughts

General Discussion / Re: Getting help for spouse
« on: February 06, 2018, 11:33:16 AM »
 I wish I had some suggestions to help you find a solution. Make sure you take care of you too. Seeking help for what is happening at home and knowing that it isn't your fault. If you husband has a mental illness talking to your doctor about what is going on could help. It can be hard to admit how you are feeling on his part. He needs to know that there is help if it is a mental illness and he didn't do anything to cause it. Drinking can be used to mask how they are feeling. And I hope that you can find a way to work through this with or with out him living in your home. I hope you will keep coming here and posting this is a very safe place and is filled with some real good people who will help with information.

General Discussion / Re: Look for suggestions on how to deal with this
« on: January 31, 2018, 07:18:24 AM »
Thank you for your input. I really don't want to go any route except to ignore but after more than10 years my sibling just isn't getting the message and I am sure I will wait until she does it again before I act but you are right I can't really win no matter what I do. She isn't good for my health physical or mental so I made the choice to remove her from my immediate life and I don't regret that choice at all ( well I do) no one want to stop talking to family unless they see no other way. But I did end up with a better relationship with my other 4 siblings so there is good that has come out of this mess. Again thank you

General Discussion / Look for suggestions on how to deal with this
« on: January 30, 2018, 09:51:03 AM »
  While most of my life is going well. There is one thing that isn't I have a sibling who has bi-polar and because of how she acted when looking after an estate I found I could keep talking to her. If she could let things go and just move on she is focused on things that didn't happen and this is more than a decade ago. She is used to bullying people to get what she wants but and has sent me messages that are awful but I have ignored them to try and not engage her. So she has now been using social media to try and get at me saying awful things about my adult child, myself  and others. While people have taken them down she has no filter and if she sees people in public will start screaming and yelling at them so I normally go the other way or leave the store to avoid watching her embarrass herself. But I can't keep this up it is effecting my life and while I don't want to have to do it I have told her daughter(we still talk) that if is doesn't stop I will involve the police I don't want to but see no other options as her spouse and children are not able to help and I don't want them to make their lives more difficult. I have talked to her doctor about it and she isn't willing to help. Am I doing the right thing I never want to get the law involved but after more than 10 years dealing with this behavior I just can't take it anymore. Any suggestions would be welcomed even if you want to say that you don't agree with my plan. Thanks

General Discussion / Re: How is everyone doing
« on: January 30, 2018, 09:40:43 AM »
  How very kind of you to ask about other and how they are doing. We have a lot of really great people here. I have taken up beekeeping and that is my new obsession learn and hoping my hives get through the cold winter. So far so good but they can turn at a moments notice. I find watching them in the warm weather so relaxing and do it often when I feel stress. My dogs also help me when things are getting out of control in my world they don't comment only cuddle with me. There are stress not in my household but with people I care about and support. Winter is not my fav time I don't like the cold at all. But spring I hope will be here before I know it

General Discussion / Re: Activity
« on: November 24, 2017, 10:59:19 AM »
I hope you post this is a very supportive place respectful and it will at times make you laugh and smile. There are a great bunch of people here. There is a lot of knowledge and help. And we can always use more in the group. It helped me so much over the years just knowing I have a safe place to vent is comforting

   I too hope he reaches out for help. Sometimes age changes views and I know my son as he ages sees things much differently. He is much more open to reaching out. Seeing how it is good to get a view of someone who has as they say no dog in the fight. When he was younger he thought he could fix problems himself. Having a partner who is supportive is important. I wish him well and try not to worry too much about the things you can't control. As I age I have adopted this view. I can tell him what I think but as an adult I can't make him accept my view as it should be. I sometimes have to resist saying I told you so as well. I in my heart know this isnt' helpful to him.

 I understand your fears. As a mom, daughter and sibling of someone who has mental illness I can relate. Have lived with treated and untreated mental illness that runs through my family we do tend to watch for the signs. I hope that you can have the difficult talk with your son about talking to a doctor. My son is Bi-polar 2 and know how important his meds are. He doesn't like the way he is with out them. It was a fight for a diganois but he is stable has two kids and is not perfect but he is a great adult. Life isn't always fair but doctors can be a life line. Try not to worry to much we can advise give info but not force.

General Discussion / Re: welcome to anyone that wants to post here
« on: September 16, 2017, 12:17:11 PM »
 I agree with the all the post this group could give lessons on acceptance and tolerance. I know sometimes how scary it can be to post to forums and it can take a while to make the move. And even if you are just a support person I hope you will post ask the question there is a wealth of not only knowledge but understanding here

General Discussion / Re: How is everyone doing this summer
« on: August 08, 2017, 04:58:05 PM »
 I am having a busy summer despite the weather being up and down. Started a new hobby Beekeeping. The bees don't care how I feel and watching them work is calming. It does take more work than I thought it would but the reward at the end is very sweet. My garden is not doing as well as it could with the weather.  Joined a group on FB that I thought was a good fit for things that I was objecting too- the price of power but it hasn't worked out the way I had hoped and now I need to figure out what to do not only with my objections but my time.

General Discussion / Re: Did I do the right thing
« on: January 12, 2017, 11:04:21 AM »
 My thinking was that if this child has a mental illness he doesn't belong in a jail even a kiddy jail. That this women is at the end of her rope and I am sure this child is as well. I felt bad for her and the comments about she must be such a bad parent when you kid is doing these kinds of things. And most parents won't ever know how it feels. I know she has shed tears and tried to figure out what she has done wrong. No need for anyone else to beat her up with words and judgement. And I thought that maybe she could read and hopefully ask people here about meds and how they have changed their lives for the good and bad. That meds are not your enemy. Courts give no slack for those with a mental illness or rarely do they. I hope that maybe she is one of the people who is reading but maybe not posting on this site. Meds can make a huge difference to peoples lives. I also know that there is so much on line about the evils of meds.

 I did that for a long time too. I read and wondered. Would I be welcome to post would my posts be ignored. People even on line tend to develop friendships as that can be scary for someone who is or feels all alone. I finally posted and found out that all the fears were unfounded. But remember when people post they do check to see not only if people reply but also how many people read them. Sometimes we just can't help it. The people in forum could teach a lot of people how to act how to not judge

General Discussion / Re: Carrie Fisher
« on: January 11, 2017, 11:35:31 AM »
I know I seen a rumor that the director wanted her to lose weight and people are wondering if it contributed to her death. My response was we have no idea what helped to cause it. But that we should allow her family to grieve in peace, celebrate her life and let her rest in peace.  She will be missed by a lot of people

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