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General Discussion / Re: Thoughts on this
« on: January 29, 2020, 08:46:54 AM »
 Thanks for the reply. We got his meds to him and he is now home with one less toe and they are still watching two other toes. I can only hope that the care after will be ok. No home care he has to go to them but we are working on the positive side he is home yah.

General Discussion / Thoughts on this
« on: January 20, 2020, 08:52:38 PM »

 My oldest son is in hospital with an infection in his foot from a blister. He is diabetic(insulin dependant). He is bi-polar and has spent 24 hrs in the ER. He didn't think he would be there that long so didn't take all his meds with him. The attending canceled his meds for his bi-polar and the hospital told him to get them from home after they admitted him. I could live with that if they had someone who could bring them down. I live out of town and currently don't have a way to get to him. His girlfriend dosen't drive and buses in the city they live in stop at 11. So it was after his gf left to go home and as they are poor there is no money to take taxi back to the hospital. His gf found someone who could do it after searching. He has been stable for years on his meds and takes them on time everytime. It might not be such a big deal as they did find someone but my problem is what about someone who has no one who could do this? The nerve of an attending to just say nope we will not give you the meds find a way to get yours from home seems  cruel and makes a joke of telling people that meds can help them if they have a mental illness and excessive stress while already sick and being in the hospital.  Wondering if he should report this to the hospital? He knows I will advocate for him if he needs it but wants at his age 39 to look after himself and advocate for himself. I am angry that he is being treated this way by a health team who is supposed to look after his well being and treating him with less respect because they know he is on ODSP (doc ask) not sure why it mattered. He has worked hard to look after himself his health both physical and mental and to get treated like a second class of person hurts both him and me as well. Thoughts suggestions on dealing with this.

General Discussion / Re: Happy 2020
« on: January 20, 2020, 08:36:28 PM »
Wow time flies dosen't it. Seemed like just yesterday the kids were just kids now moving out on their own to post secondary education. Yes when you have to clean out someones house it brings home just how many things we keep. We kept things for our kids and then we end up with a household of stuff from an estate we keep saying we need to get rid of it. Planning a Maxsold and use the money we get from it to go visit our son who lives in the USA and our grandson.

General Discussion / Re: Christmas/Vacation plans?
« on: December 25, 2019, 01:05:55 PM »
Sending your brother positive vibes and hope you holidays are very good. I used to go all out when my kids were small I have cut back and just give my kids money now. My older son and his girlfriend are coming for dinner. My younger son is very far away and we haven't seen him or my grandson in 5 years so that is a downer for me.
   Take care and have a great new year

General Discussion / Re: holidays
« on: December 25, 2019, 01:03:20 PM »
Same to you Paul may the new year bring you peace and joy.

General Discussion / Struggling to explain
« on: September 16, 2019, 04:37:20 PM »
 I live near a community that last week seen a tragedy recently. The young man who committed a horrible crime it appears suffered from mental illness and it appears that even though he tried to get help was turned away. My struggle isn't about what he did but the thinking being put out there that mental illness is an excuse. People seem to believe that "fixing" mental illness is simple go to doc you get a pill and you are good to go. Still many don't believe it is valid at all. While most with mental illness would be more likely to be victims than to commit a violent crime. But sad fact is many come into conflict with the law and while it isn't an excuse it is a factor. I always try to let people know that just because he did this it isn't common and that many living with mental illness are productive members of the cities we live in. I want people to be able to say if they choose that they have a mental illness and not be afraid that people will treat them badly(it may just be a goal). Many time I just don't say much about it not because I don't want to but because of the hate that is spewed by many. And it makes me sad that there are many who could use support from those around them that wont because of the people who want to vilify mental illness, and it worries me that it might just make someone who wants help not to seek it because of the nastiness they might see on line. Any thoughts or how do you deal with people that you might not know who spew this kind of hate. I know saying nothing is an option but I am of the thought that mental illness needs to be brought into the light of everyday people that it is a complicated illness and that every human deserves the best treatment available and at the fastest timeline wait lists are not acceptable.

General Discussion / Re: Ever had b bugs in your place?
« on: August 03, 2019, 10:07:41 AM »
  Hi Peter
   Sorry you are going through this again. From what I know of the little bugs you are have a re-infestation most likely that they didn't do one apt or someone in the building has someone who is visiting bringing them in or it could be as simple as someone buying an item from someone who had them in their place. They can go dormant for around 18 months if no "food" is at hand. They travel as well and apt building are like a highway pipes that go through rooms wires etc. They are drawn by the air you exhaile. Hope you can get the mangament to fix it quickly. Good luck

General Discussion / new cap on services
« on: February 08, 2019, 02:41:06 PM »
 The Ontario Gov is going to pass rules that people are allowed only 24 hours of psychotherapy per year. I don't think this is going to work out well for anyone. I hate being political but we need to speak out about this and speak for some who can't speak out for themselves

General Discussion / Re: Getting 2 hearing aids...
« on: February 05, 2019, 01:09:44 PM »
 Hope you can afford them. They can be life changing. I grew up with a parent who was hard of hearing and refused to do anything about it as far as hearing aids went. He did however read lips but that left people who were not directly in front of him thinking he was ignoring him. He was a senior when he finally got them and a whole new world opened up for him. The sounds that he had never heard in more than 50 years was amazing. I remember when he asked about a noise he could hear outside and asked what it was, took a bit but it was the russle of the leaves in the fall. And my hubby recently needed to get hearing aides he suffers from tinnitus and often times couldn't hear what colleges at meetings were saying it has made his life much easier to function in his work world. and at home too. He often asked me to repeat thing or ask if what he heard was what I said and often it wasn't what I said. But he often didn't ask at work so makes me wonder how many times what he thought he heard wasn't what was said. Good luck with the new aids and happy hearing

General Discussion / Re: hope to see a psychiatrist...
« on: January 09, 2019, 02:03:12 PM »
 I often procrastinate as well. For me it is that I over think the task and come up with more than one way to do it, and then ponder the choice over and over worried that I will make the wrong choice. My stove blew up NY day I need to choose a new stove but as normal I can't decide which one to choose do I want to spend the extra money installing gas line so that I don't have to worry about the price of power when I cook during the day? Is the model I thought I want the right one or should I spend a little more to get one with more features. I go round and round and 10 days later I still have no new stove(although hubby fixed it so I could use the burners) but no oven. Didn't think I used the oven that much until I didn't have one lol. Getting help these things is a good thing. Glad you didn't have to wait too long either. Good luck on your new journey

General Discussion / Merry Xmas to all
« on: December 23, 2018, 12:06:10 AM »
 I often just lurk on this site. But I would like everyone to know that having this safe space with some of the best kinds of people in this world is a comfort to me. We are not perfect but no one is. This site is filled with kind non-judgmental people. The kindness and help offered here could teach the world a few things. So how ever you celebrate the season may it bring you joy and comfort. And may the new year bring light and happiness into your life. And know that having each and everyone one of you here to lend an ear in times of need is a great thing you do and I know it has made a difference in my life and sure it has in others as well.

  I am so sorry for your loss. Please accept a virtual hug from me. It can be harder when it is unexpected. Take your time dealing with your grief and know there is no limit to the time for dealing with it. May your memories help you to cope. Take care of yourself

General Discussion / Re: Ever had b bugs in your place?
« on: July 19, 2018, 09:04:49 AM »
 Oh and the other place they like to hang out is ceilings so look up the will drop on people they are attracted to the carbon you exhale

General Discussion / Re: Ever had b bugs in your place?
« on: July 19, 2018, 09:03:28 AM »
 The places you want to look is the seems on your bed you may not see the bugs if there are not many now but you will(or should ) see evidence that they have been there. They poop a lot and leave little poops small spots everywhere. They don't just get in your bed they get in baseboards and cracks. And you could have them and caught the invasion early. Now I am not saying you do have them but they are movers and apt buildings provide a lot the little bug highways for them to move around pipes and electrical wiring. Wonder if any of the companies or the one who did the other apt would do a free inspection on your place. Worth a try

General Discussion / Re: having a bit of a tough time right now
« on: June 22, 2018, 09:43:25 AM »
      We always grieve those we loose and special dates are the hardest to deal with. It should be about you. While others may not always understand your feelings after loving someone for so many years and they are not just a by-stander in your life they are part of you.
       When I lost my mom on mothers day 18 years ago(it feels like yesterday) I couldn't imagine how much I would miss her and for many years would reach for the  phone to just talk to her. So you are not the alone in still missing those that we love. Talking about them is a sure way to keep them in your world my kids often share stories of their grandparents and it makes me laugh and know how much of an impact they made on their lives.
   Take care and know you are not alone in your feelings. I always say tell those you love how proud and how much you love them now. What I wouldn't give for just one more talk with mine.  Hugs to you and yours

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