Thanks. Yep he only does what he wants and can do that day. Motivation is a huge factor and lately he says he is getting into another funk. A new set of meds he is on too. He does some chores I asked him to do but his doctor and therapist say he can only do a few things a day and I should be happy with this. I like your response and thanks. I am letting more and more things go, its not worth it and I can only do so much. Its just frustrating working all day with a long drive and coming home to a mess and then I have to make dinner. And he can be verbally mean, tells me I am a whiner, should not make him mad,etc. Im looking at a timeline to see if he will ever improve. If not I may separate or give myself a break somewhere else for awhile. off to bed, need my rest.