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Actually Paul my oldest daughter and I went to Earl Rowe Provincial Park in the week we went together. It is very near Barrie. We had a very beautiful private spot. It is great for bicycling. Senic. It has a beautiful pool.


Hi Paul,

I was looking at all the stuff my husband and I have collected over the years. Sometimes I wish that I could start over and have just what we needed and lived in an apartment after we just got married. Wouldn't it just be easy to have what you need when you go camping. We have come very materialistic.
As a suggestion to you and your wife. Someone told me to take pictures of things that may be sentimenal but not useful. That way you could remember them.

Actually Bronte Creek is about 15 minutes away from where we live. It is a very nice park. It has a beautiful pool if you like swimming. I believe you have to drive to the other side of the park. We have camped there before. It is a little too close for us to feel like we are getting away from home.

We may be going to Elora Gorge Conservation area the weekend after the long weekend to celebrate my son and daughters birthdays. It is still up in the air. It is very beautiful there. The gorge is stunning. The town of Elora is very close. It has some very unique stores. People come from all over the place to visit. Out of country. The gorge has tubing from I believe June to labor day. I haven't done it but my kids and grandchildren have and they love it. There is a very good restaurant in town. Very good food. Not too expensive. I believe it is called something like the Elora Gorge restaurant. My kids would know.

On Thanksgiving we are going on our usual campout with my family at Rockpoint Provincial Park very close to Dunnvile. They do Halloween that weekend. I think I have mentioned that before.

Good luck with sorting through stuff and your move. So glad that you have an extension. I suppose you are donating stuff. I do this all the time for the diabetic donation place.


General Discussion / welcome to anyone that wants to post here
« on: August 30, 2017, 11:22:45 am »
We welcome anyone that wants to post here. We are a supportive group. We are very caring, non-judgemental. I have had a lot of help here and it has been a pleasure to communicate here with people. I have developed friends here.

If you have thoughts and information to offer it also helps us greatly. We are non-threatning and keep things confidential.

Please post. We would all be happy if you did.


Hi everyone.

How is everyone doing. Are you and your wife all packed up for the move. Are you going to be living in the same vicinity as to where you have lived.

How is it going with you Peace, Stenacron man and Peter.

Sorry if I have left anyone out.


General Discussion / Re: radical acceptance
« on: August 30, 2017, 11:13:57 am »
Hi Paul,
 Thank you for the for the information and websites on dialysis. I am definitely going to read them.

It may be difficult to pry out of my kidney specialist which dialysis I may need eventually. The doctors can be very close mouthed about certain things. I would rather find out information before the actual need for the dialysis to see what I am up against.


Hi Paul,

When I was first diagnosed with diabetes by my doc I was put on pills. Unfortunately as time went by I had to be put on insulin. I was very upset when they told me I had to go on insulin.

It is always difficult to balance the sugar levels. To keep my levels mostly good it has been a lot of work. By no means are they perfect but my three months check for sugar level is where it should be.

It has taken a lot of reading labels on foods to keep myself in check. Still do this all the time. Following the carbohydrate diet that the people at the diabetic clinic have advised has helped me greatly. (should not call it a diet but a way of living a better life style.)

What helped me greatly was writing down what I ate in a day and counting the carbohydrates. After awhile you don't have to do this anymore.

This way of eating does not happen overnight. It takes a lot of work. A good rule is not to have foods in the house that are not good for you. Otherwise inevitably you will eat them. This may be harder for you since you also live with your wife who might eat different things.

I have gotten into a routine. Checking my blood sugars many times a day. Watching when I am very active. The sugar level can go too low. Watching the diet as I have said.

I hope I am not boring you. I am sure you already know about what I am saying.

I will talk to my pdoc about the bad dreams. I believe I have more stresses in my life that I don't even thing I have. This maybe something to do with the dreams.


General Discussion / Re: Much more confident lately - I can feel it.
« on: August 30, 2017, 10:46:17 am »
Hi Peter,
It is great that you can shed the textiles. This is interesting. I have never heard that term before. I am afraid I could not shed my clothes. I would feel very self conscious about my body. I have too much excess weight

Glad that you are confident to do this


Hi Paul, I always worry about using the right words to reply. I am so glad that your son is living a more stable and happy life. You have helped him a great deal. You are a good father.

Yes, my son has had some huge stresses in his life of late. His separation from his wife. Being a labor foreman with 12 supervisors above him and a crew that were a challenge. Eventually after wanting to quit his job he finally told his supervisor he didn't want the job of foreman anymore but wanted to be a regular laborer. That reliefed a lot of stress. Being in a new relationship with a woman who has a daughter creates stress. Getting to know each other and his kids and her daughter getting along.

Who am I to judge if my son has a mental illness. His ups and downs may be due to his situations and having a hard time handling them.

Thanks for yout thoughts and insight into to the how to deal with my son. As you pointed out love and concern and being there when he needs me.

So far I like my son's girlfriend. She truly cares about him. When things aren't going well in the relationship instead of him taking flight she confronts him and gets him to talk about concerns in their relationship instead of him shutting down. I often call my son a man of few words. Although he always will talk to me. You have to wait until he comes to you.  You can't rush him.


General Discussion / having very bad dreams and fluctuating sugar levels
« on: August 24, 2017, 07:42:56 pm »
My kidney specialist has told me to watch that my sugar levels do not go down too far. I am on insulin and my kidneys are not functioning well.
I think this fluctuation in sugar levels are affecting my moods. Maybe this is creating my bad dreams. I am going to see my kidney specialist this month. So will discuss these symptoms with him. Also will be seeing my diabetic specialist and pdoc next month.
Does anyone here with diabetes experience mood changes?

I am probably focusing too much on myself lately. Please bear with me. (I can't seem to spell these days)


General Discussion / Re: radical acceptance
« on: August 24, 2017, 07:33:57 pm »
Actually I went camping with my eldest daughter for a week. We both really wanted my other daughter to come. She had to work.

My daughter and I had a very good time. Mostly relaxing, enjoying nature. She is a very easy going person. Very optimistic. She has a very busy, demanding job.

Dragon fly

As some of you know I suffer from bipolar II. I have had this illness since about 12 years old (onset of puberty). I am now 66 years old.

I hoped that this mental illness would not manifest itself in one of my children. I have 3. Two daughters with my son in the middle.

I have suspected that my son is most like me. He is separated from his wife. She wanted the separation. She was cheating on him. Now he is in a relationship with another woman who has a daughter. My son has two kids. His ex is a two faced b*t**h who only cares about herself. Even puts herself before the kids most times. Narcisstic.

My son has always had his ups and downs. It is becoming more evident as he is going through some very traumatic situations. His girlfriend has not had a very easy childhood. She has been single with her daughter for a very long time. My son has had a very hard time showing his feelings to her. My son runs to me and talks to me when things are not going well in his relationship. I have told him he has to talk to his girlfriend and not me. My son is really starting to open up to her.

My son is finally saying that he is very much like me. Starting to recognize that he probably has a mental illness like me. He says as much as he does not want to admit it. I wished so much that none of my kids would have this. I hope that my two grandchildren don't have it.

This is probably getting off the subject. I spoke to my sister on the phone today. Her, myself and my other siblings (we were six kids in the family) realized that my Mother had mental problems. My sister said that my Mother was wierd. That hurts. I shouldn't take it personally. She does not understand mental illness nor does she try.

Probably some of you on this forum who suffer from a mental illness also have children or relatives or friends with a mental illness. I worry about my son so much. (Worry about my other kids and grandchildren too). How do you handle this?


General Discussion / Re: radical acceptance
« on: August 11, 2017, 02:52:37 pm »
Thank you Stenacron man and Paul for your support. It means a great deal to me. I always feel better after I have posted here.
 I hope Paul that your move in September will be smooth and not too difficult and you will settle in well with your wife.

My GP sent me to a physiotherapist for my wrist. He suggested I could try a brace. It only made my wrist feel worse. I did some physio. It didn't help much. Two of my doctors suggested it could also be arthritis. I have decided I will just have to live with it.

I have appointments with my pdoc, diabetic specialist and kidney specialist next month, September. I am going to write down a lot of questions to ask each one of them.

I would like to know more about dialysis. It is difficult to talk to the kidney specialist about everything. He is a very busy man and has only so much time. He is brilliant, caring and understanding. One of the best doctors I have ever had. I wonder if there is someone I could talk to about dialysis and kidneys. Maybe someone from the kidney foundation. I don't want to rely on the internet for all my answers. Does anyone have any ideas? I am the type of person that would like to know my options instead of ignoring the whole situation.

I am very fortunate that I have the support of my family, friends and the medical professionals. I especially enjoy my grandchildren. Besides the two of them I have aquired another one. A daughter from my son's girlfriend. I try to stay positive and live day by day.

I am going to be off the internet for awhile. I need some things done to my computer. Will get back on as soon as I can.

Take care everyone.


General Discussion / Re: radical acceptance
« on: August 09, 2017, 11:48:16 am »
I am trying to think of the right words to use to describe my feelings.

My health is deteriorating. I suffer from chronic kidney disease. Only have 29% function. My kidney specialist tells me that I will end up needing dialysis. I am an insulin dependent type 2 diabetic. I suffer from bi-polar 2. I have accepted these health problems for the most part. I realize I have limitations due to them.

Now my limitations have increased. I no longer drive. I had 4 incidents where I could have created a major accident. I certainly do not want to hurt anyone.  I would say that I am having problems focusing and with my concentration. I have developed tendonitis in my right wrist. I have to be careful not to do repetitive things and certainly lifting. I have neuropathy in my hands and feet. My energy is less than it was before due to my health. Of course, I am getting older too. I am still living in my house by myself. I do get help with the yardwork, cleaning in my house. My kids are very helpful and supportive. I suppose it will get to the point were I will have to move to an apartment or retirement home. That frigthens me. I have lived in my survey for many years. I know my neighbors. I speak to them often when I am outside. We look out for each other.

Yes all these facts are depressing me to a certain extent. I have mentioned these feelings to my caseworker and pdoc. They don't say too much. They are trying to keep me optomistic.

It sounds like my life is not very good. That is not true. I have much to be thankful for.

I know I am not suppose to apologize for my complaints. I do feel bad about complaining. I know other people have problems too.

Dragonfly          I am having a hard time posting this.

General Discussion / Re: How is everyone doing this summer
« on: August 09, 2017, 11:15:14 am »
Peace, thank you for being so perceptive. The loss of my brother-in-law has triggered thoughts of my late husband.

Peter, glad you are feeling better in the last while.

momfeelinglost, your new hobby sounds very interesting.

Paul, I am glad that you have found a place to live. It must be a challenge to go through your things and to decide what to keep and not keep.


General Discussion / Re: radical acceptance
« on: August 03, 2017, 10:47:24 am »
Thank you Peace,

I opened up that website. As you say it is very well written. I am going to try to learn from it and impliment some of the strategies. Won't be easy but will try.


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