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General Discussion / Re: cousin's wife died a few days ago....
« on: July 15, 2017, 01:58:41 pm »
I'm very sorry for your loss, Peter.

Did you make it through the services okay?


General Discussion / Re: Family Illness
« on: July 07, 2017, 05:18:23 pm »
My brother crossed over at 2 am. I was able to spend time with him his final two days, and I'm very thankful for that. This has all happened so fast I'm having a very hard time processing it.

General Discussion / Re: Life
« on: June 30, 2017, 05:09:41 am »
Paul, I'm so very sorry to hear about your brother. My thoughts are with you and your family.

It's good to see that you can find a positive in all the crap you're dealing with. Very proud of how you're coping!


General Discussion / Re: Family Illness
« on: June 30, 2017, 04:39:12 am »
Thanks everyone for all the good thoughts. Very much appreciated!

I do have friends, but have found that since I have difficulty leaving my home to socialize with them, they don't include me anymore and the friendships have faded. I've had my two closest friends over 3 times recently for dinner hoping that would rekindle our friendship. We have a nice time together, then no contact until I invite them again. Have called many times to go for walks with them, but they both have reasons why they don't have the time to fit me in. I'm sure many of us can relate to that.

I'll start googling to try to find support groups for family members. Hopefully I can find something online. It's definitely worth the effort.

Paul, your comment that they wouldn't do the chemo if there was no hope brought me comfort, thank you SO much!

General Discussion / Family Illness
« on: June 27, 2017, 08:15:14 am »
I found out Friday my brother has stage 4 pancreatic cancer that has spread to his liver and lymph nodes. Surgery is not an option. He has started a 12 week round of chemotherapy.

My psychiatrist cancelled my July appointment for an appointment of his own, and is on vacation in August. My minister that I had been walking with each Thursday is on vacation in July. I have no support to help me through this and I don't know if I can cope.


General Discussion / Re: Can you believe its been 5 Years?!!!!???!!!
« on: June 27, 2017, 08:08:28 am »
Happy Anniversary, Rich and Soozan! I had always hoped that someone was coming from my area, or that I could have overcome my agoraphobia enough, to be able to attend the gatherings. Your incredible sense of humour is part of what made me want to be able to attend.

Wishing you many more happy years together.


General Discussion / Re: Feeling pressure - I'm 70 next week!
« on: June 02, 2017, 07:46:56 am »
Have a wonderful birthday, Peter!  :) :)

Age is just a number. You are definitely young at heart and a very fun person.


General Discussion / Re: Couple of things on my mind
« on: May 29, 2017, 08:21:50 am »

My daughter's boyfriend is arriving next week and will be spending the week in my home before the actual move into the apartment.

My friends son had the surgery and was released from hospital two days later with 32 staples in his head. Test results should be in within two weeks of the surgery.

I'm actually battling my OCD right now by resisting the temptation to google the "correct" way to write the previous sentence. If I allow myself I could spend the entire day trying to figure out why we write two instead of 2, but don't write thirty-two instead of 32.  :P


General Discussion / Re: Couple of things on my mind
« on: May 29, 2017, 08:07:37 am »
Thanks, Paul. Hope you enjoy your summer and can have some fun, peaceful days away with your family.

General Discussion / Re: Couple of things on my mind
« on: May 29, 2017, 08:06:25 am »
Thank you, Buddy Mack, for the compliments and words of encouragement. Very much appreciated!  :)

General Discussion / Couple of things on my mind
« on: May 21, 2017, 09:36:20 am »
Hi everyone  :)

Just wanted to converse with everyone since it's been a bit quiet here as of late and I miss you.

Currently on my mind:

My oldest daughter was away for college and returned home the 3rd week of April. She's been in a long distance relationship for around 4 years with a very nice young man in Alberta. She is starting a job on Tuesday, and has found an apartment that her boyfriend can move into with her as of June 1st. OCD makes change very hard. I adjusted to her going away for college, am adjusting to her being home again (I could never live with her permanently as her habits conflict with my need for neatness), then will be adjusting to the big step of her moving into her own apartment with her boyfriend in a very short time. Bit emotional about my "baby" leaving the nest, concerned about how she will "make it" without guaranteed full time employment and a boyfriend who is travelling here with no actual job, and how quickly all this is happening. Having said that, he does treat her well and I am happy that what they've waited 4 years for is coming to fruition.

Another thing that occurred recently that's having an impact on me is I phoned my friend of 21 years yesterday and she was at the hospital. Her oldest son has been admitted and will be having brain surgery. He's either 21 or 22.

My friend was too upset to talk, so I phoned another mutual friend, who gave me more details. The son didn't show up for work one day last week so co-workers went to his home. His truck was in the driveway, but there was no answer at the door. They called his brother, who called his dad. His dad left work to check, and found their son in his room in the basement.

The son had been having seizures and was out of it and fighting the ambulance attendants, so the fire department had to be called, and they were able to subdue him and take him to hospital.

Testing showed a brain tumour on the outer edge of his skull. Fortunately since it is on the outer edge, it is operable.

This really brings home to me the importance of those within our circle having contact information for others within our circle, and I wanted to pass that along. The thought of the son being alone in the basement with this makes me shudder, and I'm sure long term affects could be greater the longer he was alone for.

Thank you to all for being here for me to share with.


General Discussion / Re: Support group, and magazine-type site....
« on: May 04, 2017, 02:37:59 pm »
Looks interesting, Peter. Thanks for sharing.  :)

General Discussion / Re: Happy Easter
« on: April 18, 2017, 06:05:53 am »
Glad yours was good, Buddy  :)

I'm not doing well due to my living situation.

General Discussion / Happy Easter
« on: April 16, 2017, 01:10:16 pm »
Wishing everyone a very Happy Easter!  :) hugs

General Discussion / Re: Lost fiance
« on: April 16, 2017, 01:04:33 pm »
I am with you fully on that, Dragonfly.

My sister and I realize my dad was a huge contributing factor to my mom being in hospital much of our childhood. My oldest brother has never acknowledged this, he just continues to view what happened within our parents marriage as being due to my mom's mental health issues. If my dad had been less critical, more supportive, and less narrow minded regarding mental health my sister and I are certain our mom would have suffered much less.

I'm in the same situation myself now. Told my husband would not have married me had he known I was prone to mental health issues. My youngest daughter is telling people our marital breakdown is due to me having a breakdown due to work and never recovering, which is quite upsetting considering I'm an abused woman, a huge contributing factor to my situation. In reality the marital breakdown is because I separated our bank accounts and started being assertive instead of allowing my husband to completely disregard my needs and wishes, and my husband does not like that.

Yes, my OCD has not been easy to live with and I am not perfect, but I had been planning to leave my marital situation before I became unhealthy and it does hurt for it to be insinuated that I'm the reason for the marital breakdown when in reality if I had chosen to I could have had my husband charged and removed from the home due to abuse.

Hugs to everyone dealing with this.  :)


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