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General Discussion / Re: Moving Date
« on: October 26, 2015, 09:43:42 am »
I just got off the phone with the shelter. They only help women who are in their facility. 
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General Discussion / Re: Which food could beat the winter blues?
« on: October 26, 2015, 07:28:55 am »
Every little bit helps, Peter 
Thank you for posting it!
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General Discussion / Re: Moving Date
« on: October 25, 2015, 09:51:22 am »
Thank you, Paul. Everything you say helps a great deal. It opens my eyes about a number of factors.
He's had his motorcycle for sale for a few months. It's not selling. Someone offered to trade their 20 year old mustang (80,000 km's on it, which isn't high) for the motorcycle just purchased the year before last. It has a V8 engine, huge gas guzzler, and in my opinion with it being a 20 year old mustang the cost of repairs and insurance could be astronomical. He said he would give the mustang to our 17 year old daughter. Who gives a 17 year old a mustang?
Sorry, I didn't mean to turn this into a rant. I'm just so stressed by all this, and things such as trading the motorcycle for a mustang adds to it.
I would like to say at this time that my husband has a good heart and does love his children a great deal.
I'm planning to phone the local shelter on Monday, provided I'm having a good day. Our shelter takes women in for 2 weeks only. I used to volunteer for them. One of the things I want to ask them about is a referral to a lawyer (I don't qualify for legal aid). I'm hoping they might know of ones that are good, but not overly expensive. Any other things anyone can think of that I should ask them?
He's had his motorcycle for sale for a few months. It's not selling. Someone offered to trade their 20 year old mustang (80,000 km's on it, which isn't high) for the motorcycle just purchased the year before last. It has a V8 engine, huge gas guzzler, and in my opinion with it being a 20 year old mustang the cost of repairs and insurance could be astronomical. He said he would give the mustang to our 17 year old daughter. Who gives a 17 year old a mustang?
Sorry, I didn't mean to turn this into a rant. I'm just so stressed by all this, and things such as trading the motorcycle for a mustang adds to it.
I would like to say at this time that my husband has a good heart and does love his children a great deal.
I'm planning to phone the local shelter on Monday, provided I'm having a good day. Our shelter takes women in for 2 weeks only. I used to volunteer for them. One of the things I want to ask them about is a referral to a lawyer (I don't qualify for legal aid). I'm hoping they might know of ones that are good, but not overly expensive. Any other things anyone can think of that I should ask them?
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General Discussion / Moving Date
« on: October 24, 2015, 01:26:39 am »
Hi everyone
I went to the drug store today. It was very hard and I was very anxious. I don't know how I'm going to live alone.
My husband's latest plan is for me to move out of the house in the Spring and for him to buy me out. He made some comment about him not having the money to pay me upfront and that I would have to trust him. He is not a trustworthy man. I will not be ready to live on my own in the Spring.
I also just realized he wants to keep the furniture in the house. I'm going to need a lot of strength to not be taken advantage of. He's already talking about how financially tight it's going to be for him. I've been with him long enough to know he'll pull out every angle he can think of to get as much from me as he can.
I'm asking everyone to continue to keep me strong and to not waiver throughout this (as you've always done).
I'm very scared.
Peace
I went to the drug store today. It was very hard and I was very anxious. I don't know how I'm going to live alone.
My husband's latest plan is for me to move out of the house in the Spring and for him to buy me out. He made some comment about him not having the money to pay me upfront and that I would have to trust him. He is not a trustworthy man. I will not be ready to live on my own in the Spring.
I also just realized he wants to keep the furniture in the house. I'm going to need a lot of strength to not be taken advantage of. He's already talking about how financially tight it's going to be for him. I've been with him long enough to know he'll pull out every angle he can think of to get as much from me as he can.
I'm asking everyone to continue to keep me strong and to not waiver throughout this (as you've always done).
I'm very scared.
Peace
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General Discussion / Re: how is everyone doing
« on: October 22, 2015, 10:47:41 am »
Hi Dragonfly and everyone
I think it's great your son can live with you, Dragonfly. Think of the situation he'd be in if he couldn't for whatever reason. Having to pay child support and rent as well would be very hard for him. He's very lucky to have you.
I'm struggling with my illness, but also the marital breakdown. More that's there's so many details to take care of, but also how I'll manage on my own. Due to the OCD my thoughts are usually clear one day, then jumbled the next. Thankful for the clear days.
Loving the current weather and time of the year.
Peace
I think it's great your son can live with you, Dragonfly. Think of the situation he'd be in if he couldn't for whatever reason. Having to pay child support and rent as well would be very hard for him. He's very lucky to have you.
I'm struggling with my illness, but also the marital breakdown. More that's there's so many details to take care of, but also how I'll manage on my own. Due to the OCD my thoughts are usually clear one day, then jumbled the next. Thankful for the clear days.
Loving the current weather and time of the year.
Peace
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General Discussion / Re: very upset by my granddaughter yelling at me
« on: October 18, 2015, 06:12:56 am »
Hi Dragonfly
After my parents separated I did some things that were pretty bad now I look back on them. I can see the reason was because of the separation and my family going in separate directions. A family of 6 living together to 2 of my siblings going on their own, my brother going with my dad, and me going with my mom. We kids slipped through the cracks. I was acting out and looking for attention.
As mentioned, this is a very difficult time for your grandchildren, and it will continue to be for some time. They need some solids in their lives because their home life as they knew it has been shattered. I can tell you're very loving towards them and they're very lucky to have you.
I think it's important they have some discipline in their lives. A huge mistake is to let them get away with things out of feeling bad for them for the situation they did not create (the separation). The therapy I've been in has suggested disciplining kids by taking away a privilege, such as their cell phone or something else if they don't have one, depending on what they did. If it's minor a simple talk when both of you are rational about what happened and emotions don't play into the conversation. Taking a privilege away if it's serious enough. Grounding if it's something more serious. I also think it's important that you and your son agree on how to handle these situations so they have consistency.
I didn't have anyone as a young teen to take me clothes shopping or to get my haircut. I cut my hair on my own (very badly) and wore my step-moms clothes infrequently. Her daughter saw me in them one day and I was scolded to the point that I moved back in with my mom. You and your son need to try to pay attention to your grandchildren's needs. Such things as are they seeing the doctor and dentist. Do they need a haircut or to be taken shopping for clothes and school supplies. Are they being given the chance to spend time with friends.
I know you're an amazing grandmother and the potential is there for you to be your grandchildren's confidant, which they really need. Also consider them having some form of therapy so they can talk out their feeling about the separation and maybe get into groups with other kids experiencing the same things.
Good luck!
Peace
After my parents separated I did some things that were pretty bad now I look back on them. I can see the reason was because of the separation and my family going in separate directions. A family of 6 living together to 2 of my siblings going on their own, my brother going with my dad, and me going with my mom. We kids slipped through the cracks. I was acting out and looking for attention.
As mentioned, this is a very difficult time for your grandchildren, and it will continue to be for some time. They need some solids in their lives because their home life as they knew it has been shattered. I can tell you're very loving towards them and they're very lucky to have you.
I think it's important they have some discipline in their lives. A huge mistake is to let them get away with things out of feeling bad for them for the situation they did not create (the separation). The therapy I've been in has suggested disciplining kids by taking away a privilege, such as their cell phone or something else if they don't have one, depending on what they did. If it's minor a simple talk when both of you are rational about what happened and emotions don't play into the conversation. Taking a privilege away if it's serious enough. Grounding if it's something more serious. I also think it's important that you and your son agree on how to handle these situations so they have consistency.
I didn't have anyone as a young teen to take me clothes shopping or to get my haircut. I cut my hair on my own (very badly) and wore my step-moms clothes infrequently. Her daughter saw me in them one day and I was scolded to the point that I moved back in with my mom. You and your son need to try to pay attention to your grandchildren's needs. Such things as are they seeing the doctor and dentist. Do they need a haircut or to be taken shopping for clothes and school supplies. Are they being given the chance to spend time with friends.
I know you're an amazing grandmother and the potential is there for you to be your grandchildren's confidant, which they really need. Also consider them having some form of therapy so they can talk out their feeling about the separation and maybe get into groups with other kids experiencing the same things.
Good luck!
Peace
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General Discussion / Re: Need to talk and question
« on: October 06, 2015, 08:20:04 am »
Thanks Dragonfly and Paul. Much appreciated!
It seems to me that my income will most likely be grossed up. I read somewhere else that income from date of marriage may also be factored in so all that overtime I worked in an effort to offset his spending could be detrimental to me. As mentioned before I've spent almost nothing on myself in an effort to keep the family together financially. I was hoping when everything was finalized I could treat myself to some things (mattress for my bed as an example) when I no longer had the fear of what my husband was spending, but the more looking into things (additional costs of the basics such as food, etc.) I do the more I see that might not happen. The unfairness of this is mind boggling to me.
I opened up to my psychiatrist yesterday about a few things. I told him about the incident that happened on Sunday. When I had gone for a walk with my friend later that day my husband was walking up the street. Without even thinking about it I ran to my friends house and hid behind her bushes as soon as I saw him. My psychiatrist said the name calling is extremely detrimental to a person and the impact underestimated. He added PTSD due to my living situation to my "labels".
My psychiatrist is recommending a 2 bedroom apartment in case there's the potential for my younger daughter to live with me. As the youngest I slipped through the cracks when my parents separated so I'd love to have a 2 bedroom apartment so my daughters, especially the younger one, have options of where they can live or even spend some time in case they need it. Financially I'm not sure I can do it.
The pressure of everything I have to think of, all the contacting to try to set up support for myself, and my living situation is really taking it's toll on my health.
It seems to me that my income will most likely be grossed up. I read somewhere else that income from date of marriage may also be factored in so all that overtime I worked in an effort to offset his spending could be detrimental to me. As mentioned before I've spent almost nothing on myself in an effort to keep the family together financially. I was hoping when everything was finalized I could treat myself to some things (mattress for my bed as an example) when I no longer had the fear of what my husband was spending, but the more looking into things (additional costs of the basics such as food, etc.) I do the more I see that might not happen. The unfairness of this is mind boggling to me.
I opened up to my psychiatrist yesterday about a few things. I told him about the incident that happened on Sunday. When I had gone for a walk with my friend later that day my husband was walking up the street. Without even thinking about it I ran to my friends house and hid behind her bushes as soon as I saw him. My psychiatrist said the name calling is extremely detrimental to a person and the impact underestimated. He added PTSD due to my living situation to my "labels".
My psychiatrist is recommending a 2 bedroom apartment in case there's the potential for my younger daughter to live with me. As the youngest I slipped through the cracks when my parents separated so I'd love to have a 2 bedroom apartment so my daughters, especially the younger one, have options of where they can live or even spend some time in case they need it. Financially I'm not sure I can do it.
The pressure of everything I have to think of, all the contacting to try to set up support for myself, and my living situation is really taking it's toll on my health.
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General Discussion / Need to talk and question
« on: October 04, 2015, 09:14:58 am »
I just wanted to share a bit an example of what my life has been like.
Last Sunday was a bad OCD day for me. I went to the kitchen to get my dinner. My husband was in the connecting family room watching TV. When my OCD is bad I have a low tolerance for noise. I asked my husband to turn the tv down. He told me I'm not normal. I returned to the basement. My oldest daughter overheard and told him he was wrong to say that. I went back upstairs to bring the laundry in from outside. He told me to give him a 15 minute warning for when I wanted to eat. I went out to bring the laundry in and had forgotten how much of a warning I had to give so I asked him. He told me I was wacko. He made the gesture people make by saying someone is crazy by twirling his index finger around his ear. I decided to get my dinner and return back downstairs to eat it. During the time I was getting my dinner he called me wacko around 7 more times. I went downstairs to eat my dinner. Around 10 minutes later and for no reason out of the blue he started singing "oh it's so nice to be with you, I love all the things you say and do." I was crying and choking while I was trying to eat.
This is just one example of what my life has been like, it's by no means an isolated incident.
Now to my question. My psychiatrist is encouraging me to get a two bedroom apartment. He said I won't be able to pay child support during the time my youngest is attending university. He told me I'm entitled to spousal support. I said to my psychiatrist that I care about my husbands future and wouldn't claim spousal support. My psychiatrist said based on what I've told him over the years I have every right to claim it. I feel guilty about thinking about spousal support.
My situation: I receive money from CPPD that is taxed. I receive money from my work disability insurance provider that is not taxed. A website I looked at said the calculation is based on gross income and gave a formula for general cases.
The potential exists that if they factor in that my husbands money is taxed and my work disability is not and increase the amount I receive based on that I could end up owing spousal support. Does anyone know a link where this might be mentioned? I've looked myself and haven't found anything.
I hope it doesn't sound like I'm trying to get whatever I can from my husband because that is not at all the type of person I am.
I will be finding and seeing a lawyer soon. I'm working on finding support right now and on ways to ensure my youngest daughters education is paid for.
Thanks again everyone for listening to me and for your support and feedback. It means so much to me.
Last Sunday was a bad OCD day for me. I went to the kitchen to get my dinner. My husband was in the connecting family room watching TV. When my OCD is bad I have a low tolerance for noise. I asked my husband to turn the tv down. He told me I'm not normal. I returned to the basement. My oldest daughter overheard and told him he was wrong to say that. I went back upstairs to bring the laundry in from outside. He told me to give him a 15 minute warning for when I wanted to eat. I went out to bring the laundry in and had forgotten how much of a warning I had to give so I asked him. He told me I was wacko. He made the gesture people make by saying someone is crazy by twirling his index finger around his ear. I decided to get my dinner and return back downstairs to eat it. During the time I was getting my dinner he called me wacko around 7 more times. I went downstairs to eat my dinner. Around 10 minutes later and for no reason out of the blue he started singing "oh it's so nice to be with you, I love all the things you say and do." I was crying and choking while I was trying to eat.
This is just one example of what my life has been like, it's by no means an isolated incident.
Now to my question. My psychiatrist is encouraging me to get a two bedroom apartment. He said I won't be able to pay child support during the time my youngest is attending university. He told me I'm entitled to spousal support. I said to my psychiatrist that I care about my husbands future and wouldn't claim spousal support. My psychiatrist said based on what I've told him over the years I have every right to claim it. I feel guilty about thinking about spousal support.
My situation: I receive money from CPPD that is taxed. I receive money from my work disability insurance provider that is not taxed. A website I looked at said the calculation is based on gross income and gave a formula for general cases.
The potential exists that if they factor in that my husbands money is taxed and my work disability is not and increase the amount I receive based on that I could end up owing spousal support. Does anyone know a link where this might be mentioned? I've looked myself and haven't found anything.
I hope it doesn't sound like I'm trying to get whatever I can from my husband because that is not at all the type of person I am.
I will be finding and seeing a lawyer soon. I'm working on finding support right now and on ways to ensure my youngest daughters education is paid for.
Thanks again everyone for listening to me and for your support and feedback. It means so much to me.
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General Discussion / Thank You
« on: September 27, 2015, 08:30:42 pm »
Paul and Dragonfly,
You've both given me some very valuable links, information, and support recently. You always have given me support, but what you've both provided to me in the last little while has helped me immensely. Much appreciated!
You've both given me some very valuable links, information, and support recently. You always have given me support, but what you've both provided to me in the last little while has helped me immensely. Much appreciated!
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General Discussion / Re: Need a Social Worker
« on: September 25, 2015, 08:59:34 am »
So far, nothing, after numerous phone calls and emails. I'm really, really scared about how I'm going to eat.
Longos was an awesome idea and I loved it because it would leave me with a sense that I'm not a burden. I don't mind the $10 delivery charge at all. I will be on a limited income, and upon looking at their website, their prices are 3 times as much as I would spend by going to the grocery store we currently use. It's just not financially feasible.
I've made countless phone calls and sent countless emails, and I'm no further ahead, just more scared now about how I'll manage.
The reply from my minister was rather degrading and made me feel awful about myself for contacting her. After suppressing my hurt over the insensitive comments for many years, I finally sent her an email this morning. She is a paid minister and in a position to educate people on how to treat someone already in a vulnerable position, which is why I finally for once vocalized my feelings and thoughts.
Just venting since I just received her reply yesterday and just finished sending my reply to her.
There is something very flawed and wrong with our system.
Thank you for listening
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General Discussion / Re: Moral Dilemna
« on: September 17, 2015, 07:31:35 am »
Thank you Dragonfly and Paul! It helped so much to hear I'm not horrible.
I realize I threw a lot of financial stuff into my post which probably confused things. I did it mostly to justify myself. I know the courts don't care what's fair, who spent what, that I have lived as a pauper. All said to justify me not agreeing to move into my own place and to leave the home to my family. To explain the situation in a way to help with the agony I feel.
At this point for a variety of reasons we're both needed in the home. My husband probably more than me.
I know I need to get a lawyer. The key is I need to get a good lawyer. I was trying to juggle everything at once. Finding a lawyer, finding a place to live, finding support to help with the basics (grocery shopping, etc). I have taken steps to locate a good lawyer. Asked my doctor, my family, my friends. Came up empty handed. Made some initial calls to lawyers. I was becoming overwhelmed and still am overwhelmed.
I decided in an effort to maintain my health I decided I need to focus on one thing at a time. I chose to focus on getting myself on a waiting list for support with the hopes that support might also have suggestions about a lawyer and a place to live. I will be seeking the assistance of a lawyer once I'm at least on waiting lists for support, I just don't want to end up with someone who isn't good.
To get the support in place I talked to my social organization who will be doing some research, my doctor who didn't know, emailed who I thought was the Red Cross based on google, but who isn't, talked to my church secretary 2 days ago and now have the email address for my minster to ask her, messaged an employee of MDAO, and left a message for CMHA yesterday. It's the 2nd message I've left for CMHA. I'm going to call them every 2 days now until they answer me. I need help.
Again I turned this post into more than what I meant it to be A plea for reassurance I'm not horrible for not agreeing to what my husband is asking. 
I realize I threw a lot of financial stuff into my post which probably confused things. I did it mostly to justify myself. I know the courts don't care what's fair, who spent what, that I have lived as a pauper. All said to justify me not agreeing to move into my own place and to leave the home to my family. To explain the situation in a way to help with the agony I feel.
At this point for a variety of reasons we're both needed in the home. My husband probably more than me.
I know I need to get a lawyer. The key is I need to get a good lawyer. I was trying to juggle everything at once. Finding a lawyer, finding a place to live, finding support to help with the basics (grocery shopping, etc). I have taken steps to locate a good lawyer. Asked my doctor, my family, my friends. Came up empty handed. Made some initial calls to lawyers. I was becoming overwhelmed and still am overwhelmed.
I decided in an effort to maintain my health I decided I need to focus on one thing at a time. I chose to focus on getting myself on a waiting list for support with the hopes that support might also have suggestions about a lawyer and a place to live. I will be seeking the assistance of a lawyer once I'm at least on waiting lists for support, I just don't want to end up with someone who isn't good.
To get the support in place I talked to my social organization who will be doing some research, my doctor who didn't know, emailed who I thought was the Red Cross based on google, but who isn't, talked to my church secretary 2 days ago and now have the email address for my minster to ask her, messaged an employee of MDAO, and left a message for CMHA yesterday. It's the 2nd message I've left for CMHA. I'm going to call them every 2 days now until they answer me. I need help.
Again I turned this post into more than what I meant it to be
A plea for reassurance I'm not horrible for not agreeing to what my husband is asking. 133
General Discussion / Moral Dilemna
« on: September 16, 2015, 08:42:36 am »
My husband approached me a couple of weeks ago with a proposition. He's been looking at the prices of houses and feels he won't be happy living in the area he can afford with his portion of the proceeds from the sale of the house. His words were that it's a step down.
He had written up what he would offer me if I moved into an apartment and he stayed with my daughters in our home. He presented it in a family meeting 2 days before he left on a trip. My daughters never should have been included in that meeting. It was quite upsetting. His thought was we could discuss it together and I could give him an answer when he got back from his trip. He was going to give me half of the money for his motorcycle, which he has up for sale but is not selling, and keep me on his insurance policy and benefit package. He said he would help me get groceries. No money to me for my portion of the house. When I thought this through I realized he's been planning this for at least a couple of months. He'd even gone to see apartments I could move into and had brochures and information on the cost of rent.
It's very hard to find out how badly someone wants you out of their life.
I know the move and separation will disrupt my daughters, and there's even a part of me that cares about the position he'll be in. I'm agonizing over this. I'm very close to my daughters and both have talked to me about their future. I'm so scared the youngest will not attend post-secondary education if my husband doesn't purchase where it's accessible for her, and she's been talking about going since grade 7. I will do my best to find a place myself that will be accessible to both her job and college/university, but I'm limited by my need to be close to shopping. The areas I've thought of that meet these needs are very concrete without much greenery and not appealing.
My husband said if my disability gets cut off he will put the house up for sale. Currently it needs a fair amount of work. I don't trust him, and neither does my sister or my doctor.
My youngest was talking to me about her options last week and I was considering moving into a room somewhere so they could stay in the house to ensure she completes post-secondary education.
A huge part of my stress has been the lack of financial security I've felt throughout my marriage. I believe we'd be between $200,000 and $300,000 further ahead if he'd been less materialistic. I've sacrificed so much for so many years to offset this. I keep trying to remind myself of that when the guilt eats at me. Why should I continue to sacrifice? He's made no effort at all to slow down his spending so he'll have the money he needs to purchase a home that meets his standards, my oldest daughter believes his spending has increased. There's also the fact that he's nagged me to death until I've done what he wants from day one, and I don't want to continue that.
I told him when he returned from his trip Sunday that I need the proceeds from the sale of the house. It was a very hard decision for me to arrive at and I'm agonizing over it. Last night he tried convincing me again to allow him and my daughters to stay in the house. I was crying and he was still trying to talk me into it. He became very verbally abusive.
I guess I'm looking for reassurance that I'm not a horrible person for not agreeing to what he wants.
Another book.
Thank you for listening.
He had written up what he would offer me if I moved into an apartment and he stayed with my daughters in our home. He presented it in a family meeting 2 days before he left on a trip. My daughters never should have been included in that meeting. It was quite upsetting. His thought was we could discuss it together and I could give him an answer when he got back from his trip. He was going to give me half of the money for his motorcycle, which he has up for sale but is not selling, and keep me on his insurance policy and benefit package. He said he would help me get groceries. No money to me for my portion of the house. When I thought this through I realized he's been planning this for at least a couple of months. He'd even gone to see apartments I could move into and had brochures and information on the cost of rent.
It's very hard to find out how badly someone wants you out of their life.
I know the move and separation will disrupt my daughters, and there's even a part of me that cares about the position he'll be in. I'm agonizing over this. I'm very close to my daughters and both have talked to me about their future. I'm so scared the youngest will not attend post-secondary education if my husband doesn't purchase where it's accessible for her, and she's been talking about going since grade 7. I will do my best to find a place myself that will be accessible to both her job and college/university, but I'm limited by my need to be close to shopping. The areas I've thought of that meet these needs are very concrete without much greenery and not appealing.
My husband said if my disability gets cut off he will put the house up for sale. Currently it needs a fair amount of work. I don't trust him, and neither does my sister or my doctor.
My youngest was talking to me about her options last week and I was considering moving into a room somewhere so they could stay in the house to ensure she completes post-secondary education.
A huge part of my stress has been the lack of financial security I've felt throughout my marriage. I believe we'd be between $200,000 and $300,000 further ahead if he'd been less materialistic. I've sacrificed so much for so many years to offset this. I keep trying to remind myself of that when the guilt eats at me. Why should I continue to sacrifice? He's made no effort at all to slow down his spending so he'll have the money he needs to purchase a home that meets his standards, my oldest daughter believes his spending has increased. There's also the fact that he's nagged me to death until I've done what he wants from day one, and I don't want to continue that.
I told him when he returned from his trip Sunday that I need the proceeds from the sale of the house. It was a very hard decision for me to arrive at and I'm agonizing over it. Last night he tried convincing me again to allow him and my daughters to stay in the house. I was crying and he was still trying to talk me into it. He became very verbally abusive.
I guess I'm looking for reassurance that I'm not a horrible person for not agreeing to what he wants.
Another book.
Thank you for listening.
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General Discussion / Re: Family Law - Separation
« on: September 16, 2015, 07:59:42 am »
Thank you Dragonfly and Paul. I'm so much further ahead from the answers you've provided than I was when I first posted.
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General Discussion / Re: Family Law - Separation
« on: September 13, 2015, 08:23:03 pm »
Hi again
I've read through each of your responses and the links provided, and the information is invaluable. Thank you!
The current thing I'm looking into now is benefits. I mentioned to my psychiatrist that when my husband and I separate I will no longer have a benefit package for medical and dental. Currently it's through my husbands place of employment. My psychiatrist told me that often the spouse can be covered under the other spouses benefit package even if separated/divorced. I e-mailed my husbands insurance provider asking for the policy so I can read it in the hopes there is information to this effect.
Does anyone have experience with this or link(s) that might outline details of medical/dental coverage for a spouse upon separation/divorce?
Thanks again!
I've read through each of your responses and the links provided, and the information is invaluable. Thank you!
The current thing I'm looking into now is benefits. I mentioned to my psychiatrist that when my husband and I separate I will no longer have a benefit package for medical and dental. Currently it's through my husbands place of employment. My psychiatrist told me that often the spouse can be covered under the other spouses benefit package even if separated/divorced. I e-mailed my husbands insurance provider asking for the policy so I can read it in the hopes there is information to this effect.
Does anyone have experience with this or link(s) that might outline details of medical/dental coverage for a spouse upon separation/divorce?
Thanks again!