Hello Momfeelinglost. I also think that you did the right thing. My own opinion on meds and people who don't believe in them is this.
Appendicitis is pretty much a routine procedure these days and in the few cases where the appendix ruptures or some bug gets into the incision , you still have a 99% chance of surviving due to modern antibiotics. For those that don't believe in medication I will offer them a bullet to bite on and have a Chaplin standing by to pray for a miracle , because in the old days before anesthetic and antibiotics ,it hurt like the devil and you were probably going to die any ways. I never get any takers. I also use dentistry procedures as an example from time to time. When I had 8 teeth removed I was pretty quick reaching for the pain killer after the freezing wore off and when I got an infection I was pretty quick to see the doc for some medication.
I also don't see too many older people saying "no thanks I don't want my blood pressure medication or when they get severe arthritis or sciatica they are pretty quick to reach for the medication bottle.
Pysch meds are no different. In the proper dosages and with the proper supervision, they work and they certainly don't drug people into zombies. Before anyone screams at me that some psych medications can turn you into a zombie, please notice that I said "proper dosages and proper supervision" which are sadly lacking at times.
Also sometimes when a person has an accident they induce an artificial coma to allow them to heal, now that's a real zombie, but it works. I really hate taking seroquel and for a while it did turn me into a zombie, but that's what it took to allow my brain to heal and I no longer use seroquel, but I would if I ever went badly off course again.
Would I allow my child to be medicated. Yes, but I would educate myself as thoroughly as possibly about the meds , how long they needed to be on them and what the alternatives are.
In regards to bad parenting. I've seen kids who had horrible up bringings turn into model citizens (my wife for example). I also seen kids who had a pretty good up bringing and who were taught proper morals etc turn into problem children as they went through their teens (me for example).
Later in life, when my bipolar was raging out of control, for 4-5 yrs, I was certainly not a good role model for my children as they entered their pre teen and early teen yrs. However they seem to have grown up just fine. Sometimes parenting is part luck and part skill. Per usual, all of the above are just my opinions and not necessarily right. Take Care. paul m
P.S. to Dragonfly. Compared to me you have a long way to go before anyone accuses you of being too wordy LOL.