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General Discussion / Re: Getting 2 hearing aids...
« on: February 05, 2019, 01:09:44 pm »
 Hope you can afford them. They can be life changing. I grew up with a parent who was hard of hearing and refused to do anything about it as far as hearing aids went. He did however read lips but that left people who were not directly in front of him thinking he was ignoring him. He was a senior when he finally got them and a whole new world opened up for him. The sounds that he had never heard in more than 50 years was amazing. I remember when he asked about a noise he could hear outside and asked what it was, took a bit but it was the russle of the leaves in the fall. And my hubby recently needed to get hearing aides he suffers from tinnitus and often times couldn't hear what colleges at meetings were saying it has made his life much easier to function in his work world. and at home too. He often asked me to repeat thing or ask if what he heard was what I said and often it wasn't what I said. But he often didn't ask at work so makes me wonder how many times what he thought he heard wasn't what was said. Good luck with the new aids and happy hearing

General Discussion / Re: hope to see a psychiatrist...
« on: January 09, 2019, 02:03:12 pm »
 I often procrastinate as well. For me it is that I over think the task and come up with more than one way to do it, and then ponder the choice over and over worried that I will make the wrong choice. My stove blew up NY day I need to choose a new stove but as normal I can't decide which one to choose do I want to spend the extra money installing gas line so that I don't have to worry about the price of power when I cook during the day? Is the model I thought I want the right one or should I spend a little more to get one with more features. I go round and round and 10 days later I still have no new stove(although hubby fixed it so I could use the burners) but no oven. Didn't think I used the oven that much until I didn't have one lol. Getting help these things is a good thing. Glad you didn't have to wait too long either. Good luck on your new journey

General Discussion / Merry Xmas to all
« on: December 23, 2018, 12:06:10 am »
 I often just lurk on this site. But I would like everyone to know that having this safe space with some of the best kinds of people in this world is a comfort to me. We are not perfect but no one is. This site is filled with kind non-judgmental people. The kindness and help offered here could teach the world a few things. So how ever you celebrate the season may it bring you joy and comfort. And may the new year bring light and happiness into your life. And know that having each and everyone one of you here to lend an ear in times of need is a great thing you do and I know it has made a difference in my life and sure it has in others as well.

  I am so sorry for your loss. Please accept a virtual hug from me. It can be harder when it is unexpected. Take your time dealing with your grief and know there is no limit to the time for dealing with it. May your memories help you to cope. Take care of yourself

General Discussion / Re: Ever had b bugs in your place?
« on: July 19, 2018, 09:04:49 am »
 Oh and the other place they like to hang out is ceilings so look up the will drop on people they are attracted to the carbon you exhale

General Discussion / Re: Ever had b bugs in your place?
« on: July 19, 2018, 09:03:28 am »
 The places you want to look is the seems on your bed you may not see the bugs if there are not many now but you will(or should ) see evidence that they have been there. They poop a lot and leave little poops small spots everywhere. They don't just get in your bed they get in baseboards and cracks. And you could have them and caught the invasion early. Now I am not saying you do have them but they are movers and apt buildings provide a lot the little bug highways for them to move around pipes and electrical wiring. Wonder if any of the companies or the one who did the other apt would do a free inspection on your place. Worth a try

General Discussion / Re: having a bit of a tough time right now
« on: June 22, 2018, 09:43:25 am »
      We always grieve those we loose and special dates are the hardest to deal with. It should be about you. While others may not always understand your feelings after loving someone for so many years and they are not just a by-stander in your life they are part of you.
       When I lost my mom on mothers day 18 years ago(it feels like yesterday) I couldn't imagine how much I would miss her and for many years would reach for the  phone to just talk to her. So you are not the alone in still missing those that we love. Talking about them is a sure way to keep them in your world my kids often share stories of their grandparents and it makes me laugh and know how much of an impact they made on their lives.
   Take care and know you are not alone in your feelings. I always say tell those you love how proud and how much you love them now. What I wouldn't give for just one more talk with mine.  Hugs to you and yours

      Sorry to hear about your brother and I hope he is doing ok. Make sure you tell your doctor about it as well, they often pay more attention when there is a family member who has gotten a certain kind of cancer. Hugs to you and your family.

General Discussion / Re: Worried about getting dementia......
« on: June 22, 2018, 09:31:14 am »
  I think that now it has been mentioned you are more aware of the times when you forget things. We all have them I used to remember names of people when I met them now if I don't write there name down I can't remember them two min later. Go into a room and can't remember why I went there. It can be scary to worry about such things. My father suffered from it but functioned on his own until his death. There are new and emerging meds as well they can to so much for people. But I think you are just focused on the things you get wrong. Being home all day I not only forget what day it is but sometimes the month too. Not going out to work can muddle those things. But doing any tests will help to give you peace of mind and even if they find something you can get ahead of it with meds and other things. Try not to worry too much.

 Wondering how people feel about the promises by those running for office on the funding for mental health? Are there questions that you think we should ask when or if we have contact with them?
 I personally don't think they will put the funding where it is really needed. I believe that many people think "fixing" those with mental illnesses is easy quick and it just requires people to go to their doctors and get the "pill" for their mental illness. I find many don't understand that just because people may look Ok on the outside that working or not being able to work is a cop out. I also find so many who think depression is also one of those things that you just need to pull up your boot straps and do it. Wait times are clearly an issue and not just for young people. There isn't a time line for helping somone who needs treatment but they clearly think their is. I want to put some hard question to those running for office and a promise that they won't leave people and their families to fend for themselves in getting help. Thoughts

General Discussion / Re: Getting help for spouse
« on: February 06, 2018, 11:33:16 am »
 I wish I had some suggestions to help you find a solution. Make sure you take care of you too. Seeking help for what is happening at home and knowing that it isn't your fault. If you husband has a mental illness talking to your doctor about what is going on could help. It can be hard to admit how you are feeling on his part. He needs to know that there is help if it is a mental illness and he didn't do anything to cause it. Drinking can be used to mask how they are feeling. And I hope that you can find a way to work through this with or with out him living in your home. I hope you will keep coming here and posting this is a very safe place and is filled with some real good people who will help with information.

General Discussion / Re: Look for suggestions on how to deal with this
« on: January 31, 2018, 07:18:24 am »
Thank you for your input. I really don't want to go any route except to ignore but after more than10 years my sibling just isn't getting the message and I am sure I will wait until she does it again before I act but you are right I can't really win no matter what I do. She isn't good for my health physical or mental so I made the choice to remove her from my immediate life and I don't regret that choice at all ( well I do) no one want to stop talking to family unless they see no other way. But I did end up with a better relationship with my other 4 siblings so there is good that has come out of this mess. Again thank you

General Discussion / Look for suggestions on how to deal with this
« on: January 30, 2018, 09:51:03 am »
  While most of my life is going well. There is one thing that isn't I have a sibling who has bi-polar and because of how she acted when looking after an estate I found I could keep talking to her. If she could let things go and just move on she is focused on things that didn't happen and this is more than a decade ago. She is used to bullying people to get what she wants but and has sent me messages that are awful but I have ignored them to try and not engage her. So she has now been using social media to try and get at me saying awful things about my adult child, myself  and others. While people have taken them down she has no filter and if she sees people in public will start screaming and yelling at them so I normally go the other way or leave the store to avoid watching her embarrass herself. But I can't keep this up it is effecting my life and while I don't want to have to do it I have told her daughter(we still talk) that if is doesn't stop I will involve the police I don't want to but see no other options as her spouse and children are not able to help and I don't want them to make their lives more difficult. I have talked to her doctor about it and she isn't willing to help. Am I doing the right thing I never want to get the law involved but after more than 10 years dealing with this behavior I just can't take it anymore. Any suggestions would be welcomed even if you want to say that you don't agree with my plan. Thanks

General Discussion / Re: How is everyone doing
« on: January 30, 2018, 09:40:43 am »
  How very kind of you to ask about other and how they are doing. We have a lot of really great people here. I have taken up beekeeping and that is my new obsession learn and hoping my hives get through the cold winter. So far so good but they can turn at a moments notice. I find watching them in the warm weather so relaxing and do it often when I feel stress. My dogs also help me when things are getting out of control in my world they don't comment only cuddle with me. There are stress not in my household but with people I care about and support. Winter is not my fav time I don't like the cold at all. But spring I hope will be here before I know it

General Discussion / Re: Activity
« on: November 24, 2017, 10:59:19 am »
I hope you post this is a very supportive place respectful and it will at times make you laugh and smile. There are a great bunch of people here. There is a lot of knowledge and help. And we can always use more in the group. It helped me so much over the years just knowing I have a safe place to vent is comforting

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