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General Discussion / Re: Thoughts on this
« on: February 04, 2020, 09:57:47 am »
Wow tough issues.
My 22 year old is type 1 diabetic too.
Its so hard to step aside as a parent when they get old.
His dad has mental illness and I am stressed so he has learned to take care of himself.
Take care.

It still seems like there isn't much for families in the way of support groups, especially for parents to other parents who have a spouse who is ill. My kids wouldn't attend a group as they just wont. My husband goes to his support group but what about the well spouse?

Thank you.
One must find ways to remain strong when facing mental illness in the family.
Groups like this help.

The longer we go through this journey, the longer I am starting to get worse like my husband. This is tough. Really tough. I am drawn to depression because everything is so hard. I am the breadwinner and the family everything. Tough times and it is really hard. Going on 5 years now. Hard to not become like them.

General Discussion / Re: Introductions
« on: February 14, 2019, 10:34:40 pm »
Thanks. Yep he only does what he wants and can do that day. Motivation is a huge factor and lately he says he is getting into another funk. A new set of meds he is on too. He does some chores I asked him to do but his doctor and therapist say he can only do a few things a day and I should be happy with this. I like your response and thanks. I am letting more and more things go, its not worth it and I can only do so much. Its just frustrating working all day with a long drive and coming home to a mess and then I have to make dinner. And he can be verbally mean, tells me I am a whiner, should not make him mad,etc. Im looking at a timeline to see if he will ever improve. If not I may separate or give myself a break somewhere else for awhile. off to bed, need my rest.

General Discussion / Re: Introductions
« on: February 14, 2019, 07:01:55 pm »
Hi I am Sarahruth. My spouse has major depression/pain attacks and anxiety for  most of our marriage. The past 2 years have been the worst. He is unable to work for the past 4 years. We have older kids. I work full time as a professional and carry all the home tasks. I am struggling big time as he isn't getting better and it is sooooooooooooo hard living with someone with mental illness. You have to be mature and accepting, have empathy, be kind, etc. All of this and you have to find joy in life too.  I have major stress in my family life and work life. I am struggling with most things at home and work and think that I can only do this for one more year. Looking for somewhere to vent and get support that works with my busy life.

General Discussion / Re: No answers
« on: February 14, 2019, 06:54:38 pm »
I understand the keep going mantra and having little enjoyment in the daily grind. I'm finding it tough with liking myself and think I am boring now that the kids are older.  I don't get hungry either and find my ability to feel for others is decreasing. Overwhelmed but have to keep going. Its good to remember it could be worse.

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