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General Discussion / Re: Worried about my son and his drinking alcohol
« on: October 16, 2014, 11:29:41 am »
Hi Dragonfly and paulm. I have read your posts a couple of times and it keeps bringing me back to my childhood.
As an adult, I am really angry about losing my childhood and innocence. My siblings and I had to take care of ourselves and our parents, while our parents spun our lives out of control. We were never able to just be kids. We had to keep the family secrets so we never felt good enough to hang around kind-loving people, just incase they asked about our home life. We were constantly in a state of anxiety.
I don't know what the answer is here but is there a way that you can step away from the destructive cycle and have an innocent relationship with your grandkids? I think when they grow older, they will greatly appreciate having someone in their lives that knows everything about them and still shows them that they will one day be able to make their own choices in life. It is very embarrassing for the kids but they/we don't want to betray our parents. We tend to gravitate towards like-minded peers and so the cycle continues.
Again, I don't know what the answer is but I do wish that I had someone in my life that allowed me to be an innocent kid.
I'm sending you good thoughts and hugs, and wish genuine love for you today.
As an adult, I am really angry about losing my childhood and innocence. My siblings and I had to take care of ourselves and our parents, while our parents spun our lives out of control. We were never able to just be kids. We had to keep the family secrets so we never felt good enough to hang around kind-loving people, just incase they asked about our home life. We were constantly in a state of anxiety.
I don't know what the answer is here but is there a way that you can step away from the destructive cycle and have an innocent relationship with your grandkids? I think when they grow older, they will greatly appreciate having someone in their lives that knows everything about them and still shows them that they will one day be able to make their own choices in life. It is very embarrassing for the kids but they/we don't want to betray our parents. We tend to gravitate towards like-minded peers and so the cycle continues.
Again, I don't know what the answer is but I do wish that I had someone in my life that allowed me to be an innocent kid.
I'm sending you good thoughts and hugs, and wish genuine love for you today.