An example of my ex-spouse: My youngest daughter brought home her graduation photo. The cost was $35 plus tax and delivery fee for one photo. My ex-spouse said to me "can you cover it, I'm tapped out". I hesitated because he has ripped me off financially over and over. I spoke to my sister and she said this is a special memory for her, cover it, so I did. Since then he's spent a ton of money. I said "I thought you were tapped out". His reply was "you must have misunderstood what I said". I am 100% positive of what he said.
I say ex-spouse because even though we haven't gone through the official separation procedures, we aren't living together as man and wife. He likes to say to me "we aren't really in a relationship".
He made some proposals to me. I sent them to my brother and sister. They both said the options are very one-sided, favouring him.
I've been trying since the end of August to get some help so I'm able to live independently. I'm exhausted from it, and sadly no further ahead. The mental health system is extremely flawed.
I am still seaching for a lawyer. The search for help to live independently put that on a back burner. The OCD is making it take longer than it would otherwise.
I need help to stay strong.