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Pleeb

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My oldest brother passed away suddenly yesterday....
« on: October 27, 2018, 12:16:57 AM »
My mind is a blur.....but I think it was yesterday.

He wasn't sick that I know of, but he had pneumonia recently, and was in the hospital?
Update:  he may have died from C Difficile, which can be contracted in hospitals.....they're doing an autopsy.  (most unusual, I guess)

He was my oldest brother 68 or 69.  I also have a brother a year younger....and I have two younger brothers.


Psychological problems run in the family.....like social phobia - not me so much - I worked on it, went to support groups for it etc....


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Re: My oldest brother passed away suddenly yesterday....
« Reply #1 on: October 27, 2018, 07:50:36 AM »
I'm really sorry for your loss, Peter.  :'(

I'm the youngest in my family of 6 and there's only my sister and I left. She went on vacation a couple of months after we lost my oldest brother last year and the panic attacks when she went offline for a few days were intense. It hurts, it never goes away completely, miss everyone.

The next little while will be hard for you. Please take care of yourself and reach out whenever you need.

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Re: My oldest brother passed away suddenly yesterday....
« Reply #2 on: October 27, 2018, 09:20:30 PM »
Hello Peter. Sorry to hear about your brother. Take Care. paul m

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Re: My oldest brother passed away suddenly yesterday....
« Reply #3 on: October 28, 2018, 06:35:14 PM »
Peter,

 I am really sorry about your brother. I will be thinking of you.

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Re: My oldest brother passed away suddenly yesterday....
« Reply #4 on: October 29, 2018, 03:49:11 AM »
Guys, thanks.

Still haven't heard when autopsy will be.


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Re: My oldest brother passed away suddenly yesterday....
« Reply #5 on: November 01, 2018, 04:14:14 AM »
There will be an autopsy/may have been one, but only family Dr. gets results.

The viewing is Tomorrow, funeral is Friday.

I'm so frazzled, I'm mixing the days up....worried about fainting, and having bandages on my face from that.  BTW, if that did happen (one in a million), :) I wouldn't be embarrassed, nor embarrassed to walk around with bandages.


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Re: My oldest brother passed away suddenly yesterday....
« Reply #6 on: November 01, 2018, 07:45:45 PM »
Hello Peter. It's normal to be frazzled when someone close to you passes. Hopefully your grief will pass and be replaced with fond memories of your brother. Take Care. paul m

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Re: My oldest brother passed away suddenly yesterday....
« Reply #7 on: November 01, 2018, 10:56:13 PM »
Thanks, Paul.....I'm better now.

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« Reply #8 on: November 02, 2018, 09:25:23 AM »
Peter, I love your sense of humour. Having the ability to laugh at ourselves and the silly ideas our conditions plant in our minds can go so far. The 3 N's - notice it, name it, do nothing. Notice the thought or feeling, name it - oh, anxiety or oh, silly thought, then carry on and don't pay heed to it. Valuable tool.

I mix my days up all the time, not having a job to go to does that.

Thinking of you today.

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Re: My oldest brother passed away suddenly yesterday....
« Reply #9 on: November 05, 2018, 10:50:43 PM »
My brother may have died from C Difficile - waiting for autopsy.

My friend had the same thing last week.  It's serious, but she was only hospitalized for a couple of days.


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Re: My oldest brother passed away suddenly yesterday....
« Reply #10 on: November 07, 2018, 05:38:36 AM »
Do you think health anxiety is being triggered over this?

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Re: My oldest brother passed away suddenly yesterday....
« Reply #11 on: November 07, 2018, 06:58:27 PM »
Hi, Peace......Good question!  The answer is yes.

I've had health anxiety lately anyway when I think about being 71.


I learned today I have sleep apnea.  I'm getting another sleep lab session while wearing a CPAP mask that St. Mike's provides.
This is to see how mine should be adjusted once I get one.

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Re: My oldest brother passed away suddenly yesterday....
« Reply #12 on: November 09, 2018, 11:57:38 AM »
Hi Peter,

 I am sorry that you are experiencing anxiety due to your age and what you have experienced with your brother.

I am turning 68 next month. I have a number of health issues. I voiced to my daughter the other day that I worry about my kidney function which is not good. I fear I might eventually have to go on dialysis. My daughter told me not to worry at the moment and to take it one step at a time. I try not to dwell on my health issues and enjoy each day as much as possible. Her advice is really good.

I am thinking of you.

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Re: My oldest brother passed away suddenly yesterday....
« Reply #13 on: November 09, 2018, 09:22:25 PM »
Hi, Dragonfly.... Thanks for your advice.

Sorry to hear about your health concern.


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Re: My oldest brother passed away suddenly yesterday....
« Reply #14 on: November 13, 2018, 04:18:48 PM »
  I am so sorry for your loss. Please accept a virtual hug from me. It can be harder when it is unexpected. Take your time dealing with your grief and know there is no limit to the time for dealing with it. May your memories help you to cope. Take care of yourself