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General Discussion / Re: Introductions
« Last post by sarahruth on February 14, 2019, 10:34:40 PM »
Thanks. Yep he only does what he wants and can do that day. Motivation is a huge factor and lately he says he is getting into another funk. A new set of meds he is on too. He does some chores I asked him to do but his doctor and therapist say he can only do a few things a day and I should be happy with this. I like your response and thanks. I am letting more and more things go, its not worth it and I can only do so much. Its just frustrating working all day with a long drive and coming home to a mess and then I have to make dinner. And he can be verbally mean, tells me I am a whiner, should not make him mad,etc. Im looking at a timeline to see if he will ever improve. If not I may separate or give myself a break somewhere else for awhile. off to bed, need my rest.
General Discussion / Re: Introductions
« Last post by Rnr8011 on February 14, 2019, 09:17:14 PM »
Aww man that is rough . You mentioned that your kids are older . Can they help out a bit more with the home chores? What kind of network do you have? Brothers sisters mom dad? Friends? Can the kids manage the laundry? My mom used to give me and my sister to do the laundry when I was 9 and she was 11 years old. So I know kids that age can help. Can your husband do anything at home at all even if itís just vacuuming? Fridayís I used to make that clean out the fridge night so I would take out all the leftovers and put it on the kitchen counter and then we would have pot luck for dinner. Afterwards the leftover leftovers would go into the garbage and the fridge would get a wipe down. Ready for Saturday shopping. I used to have everything on a schedule. Saturday clean and shopping Sunday church and cooking. Then Monday to Friday just tidying. The gardening never gets done but thatís okay. I hope that everything gets better for you. Iím here if you need
General Discussion / Re: Introductions
« Last post by sarahruth on February 14, 2019, 07:01:55 PM »
Hi I am Sarahruth. My spouse has major depression/pain attacks and anxiety for  most of our marriage. The past 2 years have been the worst. He is unable to work for the past 4 years. We have older kids. I work full time as a professional and carry all the home tasks. I am struggling big time as he isn't getting better and it is sooooooooooooo hard living with someone with mental illness. You have to be mature and accepting, have empathy, be kind, etc. All of this and you have to find joy in life too.  I have major stress in my family life and work life. I am struggling with most things at home and work and think that I can only do this for one more year. Looking for somewhere to vent and get support that works with my busy life.
General Discussion / Re: No answers
« Last post by sarahruth on February 14, 2019, 06:54:38 PM »
I understand the keep going mantra and having little enjoyment in the daily grind. I'm finding it tough with liking myself and think I am boring now that the kids are older.  I don't get hungry either and find my ability to feel for others is decreasing. Overwhelmed but have to keep going. Its good to remember it could be worse.
General Discussion / No answers
« Last post by Rnr8011 on February 14, 2019, 06:38:06 PM »
Feeling like there are no answers. No answers to things from the past no answers for things now and no answers for things in the future. This life is for me like eating a large plate of food that Has no taste. I have to finish my supper on bite at a time but no enjoyment comes from it. Iím waiting for it to get better. I always wanted to travel but I got married and had a baby. Beautiful baby so beautiful. I love her. She is grown now but still wants us nearby. Itís wonderful to be loved and wanted but I want to be free. I would like to just go. One day sell everything and go. Maybe when I retire. Thatís in another 12 years. Ok I will have to keep going until then.
General Discussion / Re: hope to see a psychiatrist...
« Last post by Peace on February 11, 2019, 01:14:18 PM »
This is what I don't like about mental health. My 1st hospitalization I was 19. They suspected bipolar and wanted to start me on lithium, which I objected to, so they didn't. Each time I would slip since they suspected bipolar I had the thought in my mind I might have bipolar disorder. This breakdown I was obsessing about it. It took meeting my most recent psychiatrist, now retired, to get an accurate mental health diagnosis because he took the time to talk to me and he had experience. 30 years of seeing social workers, psychologists and psychiatrists before I got an accurate diagnosis, the rest was just a guessing game.

How are we supposed to get on the right medication and receive the right treatment if we don't know what our diagnosis is?

I wish you the best of luck, Peter. Keep advocating for yourself and keep searching for the treatment and treatment specialist fit you need and deserve.
General Discussion / Re: hope to see a psychiatrist...
« Last post by Pleeb on February 10, 2019, 10:30:18 PM »
Saw resident psychiatrist.  Turns out I only see her once, and she'll refer me to a social worker....who I've met a few times.  This social worker only sees people on a short term basis - a few months (?).

She thought maybe my diagnosis when younger (and now?....I forget) was mild autism.  Not the aspect of "I can't read peoples' feelings/body language." aspect of autism....she meant more the aspect of autism where you like routine?....I didn't really look it up.

Because I was nervous.......
1....I didn't ask why I wouldn't see another psychiatrist instead of a social worker.  BTW, I'm sure a lot of social workers can be better therapists than psychiatrists.  (btw, I'm not on meds that have to be monitored/adjusted frequently.

2.....I forgot to tell her "my main depression symptom is I can't keep my apt tidy."  On the other hand, my original diagnosis is Dysthymia, which would infer "can't be tidy my apt........and millions of other things."  She might assume I'm like that.


She's ANOTHER anti-benzio person!.....forget if she meant for older people only.
General Discussion / Re: new cap on services
« Last post by paulm on February 08, 2019, 10:02:00 PM »
Hello Dragonfly. I don't like the changes that the Gov't has been making either.  Take Care paul m

 Hello momfeelinglost. I agree with you. Take Care. paul m
General Discussion / Re: Getting 2 hearing aids...
« Last post by Dragonfly on February 08, 2019, 08:54:31 PM »

Good luck with the hearing aids.

General Discussion / Re: new cap on services
« Last post by Dragonfly on February 08, 2019, 08:53:14 PM »
I agree with you momfellinglost. I shouldn't be political either however it sickens me as to what the new ontario government is doing. Cutting back on services that are very needed. Care for autism, day care, prescription drugs for children and retiree's. I could go on and on.

Someone who is rich. Not very educated in government matters and doesn't know how the middle class and poor live. In it for himself and his family and friends.

I will probably get flack with my views. That is okay.

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