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Support for People with Mood Disorders => General Discussion => Topic started by: Pleeb on October 27, 2018, 12:16:57 am
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My mind is a blur.....but I think it was yesterday.
He wasn't sick that I know of, but he had pneumonia recently, and was in the hospital?
Update: he may have died from C Difficile, which can be contracted in hospitals.....they're doing an autopsy. (most unusual, I guess)
He was my oldest brother 68 or 69. I also have a brother a year younger....and I have two younger brothers.
Psychological problems run in the family.....like social phobia - not me so much - I worked on it, went to support groups for it etc....
Peter
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I'm really sorry for your loss, Peter. :'(
I'm the youngest in my family of 6 and there's only my sister and I left. She went on vacation a couple of months after we lost my oldest brother last year and the panic attacks when she went offline for a few days were intense. It hurts, it never goes away completely, miss everyone.
The next little while will be hard for you. Please take care of yourself and reach out whenever you need.
Peace
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Hello Peter. Sorry to hear about your brother. Take Care. paul m
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Peter,
I am really sorry about your brother. I will be thinking of you.
Dragonfly
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Guys, thanks.
Still haven't heard when autopsy will be.
Peter
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There will be an autopsy/may have been one, but only family Dr. gets results.
The viewing is Tomorrow, funeral is Friday.
I'm so frazzled, I'm mixing the days up....worried about fainting, and having bandages on my face from that. BTW, if that did happen (one in a million), :) I wouldn't be embarrassed, nor embarrassed to walk around with bandages.
Peter
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Hello Peter. It's normal to be frazzled when someone close to you passes. Hopefully your grief will pass and be replaced with fond memories of your brother. Take Care. paul m
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Thanks, Paul.....I'm better now.
Peter
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Peter, I love your sense of humour. Having the ability to laugh at ourselves and the silly ideas our conditions plant in our minds can go so far. The 3 N's - notice it, name it, do nothing. Notice the thought or feeling, name it - oh, anxiety or oh, silly thought, then carry on and don't pay heed to it. Valuable tool.
I mix my days up all the time, not having a job to go to does that.
Thinking of you today.
Peace
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My brother may have died from C Difficile - waiting for autopsy.
My friend had the same thing last week. It's serious, but she was only hospitalized for a couple of days.
Peter
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Do you think health anxiety is being triggered over this?
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Hi, Peace......Good question! The answer is yes.
I've had health anxiety lately anyway when I think about being 71.
I learned today I have sleep apnea. I'm getting another sleep lab session while wearing a CPAP mask that St. Mike's provides.
This is to see how mine should be adjusted once I get one.
Peter
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Hi Peter,
I am sorry that you are experiencing anxiety due to your age and what you have experienced with your brother.
I am turning 68 next month. I have a number of health issues. I voiced to my daughter the other day that I worry about my kidney function which is not good. I fear I might eventually have to go on dialysis. My daughter told me not to worry at the moment and to take it one step at a time. I try not to dwell on my health issues and enjoy each day as much as possible. Her advice is really good.
I am thinking of you.
Dragonfly
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Hi, Dragonfly.... Thanks for your advice.
Sorry to hear about your health concern.
Peter
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I am so sorry for your loss. Please accept a virtual hug from me. It can be harder when it is unexpected. Take your time dealing with your grief and know there is no limit to the time for dealing with it. May your memories help you to cope. Take care of yourself
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Mom, thanks for your thoughts...
Peter
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I had really bad health anxiety at one time, Peter. It's much better now. What I learned was by asking others opinions and by googling symptoms I was keeping myself unhealthy because I was telling my brain something was wrong by doing the very things to try to make myself feel better.
Trigger > anxiety > research > temporary relief, then it the anxiety would start again.
I started to find ways to prevent myself from talking about my worries and from googling. That's the only way I was able to overcome the health anxiety.
Just some friend advice :) It's easier said than done. Good luck!
Peace
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Re health anxiety, my friend in Japan (he's from here) says he's a hypochondriac....I haven't really noticed that. Maybe he doesn't open up enough - typical male! :o
He asked his Dr. for blood pressure medication, even though his b.p. is normal. Dr. gives him prescription!
That was a couple of years ago. He now has fibromyalgia...(sp.).....I'm sure that it's real, as his pain is pretty bad, among other ailments.
I know some Dr.'s think it's imaginary, but his isn't....he's suffering.
Peter
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Yes,
some people are hypochondriacs. I know a few.One of my husband's aunt was like that. She got prescriptions that were not needed for imaginary ailments which harmed her health.
Unfortunately when something is really wrong it is hard to believe them. When his aunt was dying I thought oh it is not serious. It is some complaint that doesn't mean anything.
Dragonfly
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Hello Peter. Fibromyalgia is very real. However as you said many docs don't accept it. Take Care. paul m