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General Discussion / Re: Worried about getting dementia......
« Last post by Pleeb on June 21, 2018, 03:11:42 PM »
Hi, Peace......Your reply didn't sink in at first.

My father, mother, aunt (mother's sister) all died of Alzheimer.  Father at 67, mother 88....aunt 80's.  I'm 71

But that doesn't mean I'll get it
- I've always said that.  My older brother with prostate cancer MAY have it.....he's 77?


I'm so lucky to have long-lived parents and relatives!


Peter


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General Discussion / Re: having a bit of a tough time right now
« Last post by Pleeb on June 19, 2018, 02:08:47 AM »
I never remember my mother's date of death....but I know it was September.  I can't look at her picture, partly because she had a hard life because of my cranky father......who was a jerk in many ways.  But not violent, thank goodness!

I was closest to my mother, especially her last few years.


Peter
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General Discussion / Re: Worried about getting dementia......
« Last post by Pleeb on June 19, 2018, 02:05:49 AM »
Peace and Dragonfly, thank you so much for your sincere and valuable feedback!  I'm less worried about dementia now.  The other day I remembered when "dementia" first came up.  When I fell on my face for no reason (?), my nurse Practitioner sent me for an MRI (haven't had it yet).....and other tests to rule out dementia because I fell "for no reason," and I've always thought I have good balance.  Kinda embarrassed that I fell on my face (no injuries), and I had to get 2 people to help me up.

(I don't like change for no reason, even if positive......if I knew the reason, I could do the changes on a regular basis.)
Last night I did 99% of the things I've been putting off.....why?....maybe the Remeron was kicking in...or because I stopped worrying about dementia?


Giant coincidence:  my younger brother is in the cardiac ward at St. Mikes.  (easy to trip over the millions of machines and wires in the hall there!).....they can't find anything wrong.
He was helping another brother clean his evestrough, and he felt light headed etc etc..........at first he said "no ambulance" - then he changed his mind.

Anyway, he's in the cardiac to unit to rule out heart ailments.......they haven't found anything wrong with him the last I heard.  May even have been dehydration.

Peter  A little more next time.

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General Discussion / Re: Worried about getting dementia......
« Last post by Dragonfly on June 18, 2018, 02:17:21 PM »
Hi Peter,   Somehow I don't think you are suffering from dementia. I am 67 years old.

Sometimes when you are retired it is easy to forget what day it is. We don't always have a calendar in front of us which I think is great. Why mark time at our age. We are entitled to not be on a schedule. Am I making sense. I mix up my days quite often.

I forget things from one minute to the next. This may sound funny but I think that we have lived a good number of years. We have too much in our brains so we forget things. Is that wishful thinking on my part? I find I remember things from the past better than things happening in the present. For example I remember older actors but not the younger ones. This may be off topic. A lot of times I think actors or other people are older than me. Then I realize we are the same age or they are younger.

My daughter who is 41 years old and an accountant forgets things I tell her all the time. Her brain is so overloaded. She works so hard at work and hardly gets a break. When it comes to her personal life her mind is saturated and she forgets things.

I think everyone forgets things. Young or old. As Peace says we overthink that we may have dementia or alzheimers. My son doesn't pick up on things because his mind is so focused on something that he doesn't compute.

My neighbor who is 85 years old was beating herself up. She left her purse in the grocery buggy and realized she didn't have it until she got home. She thought she was losing her mind. I said I have left my purse behind a number of times. Her daughter-in-law who is of course is younger says she has done it too. When I speak to my neighbor I find that her mind is very sharp. More so than mine sometimes.

Don't beat yourself up Peter. From what you post I think your mind works fine.

Dragonfly
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General Discussion / Re: having a bit of a tough time right now
« Last post by Peace on June 18, 2018, 07:36:10 AM »
It's never ever been all about you, Dragonfly! You've always been very thoughtful and caring towards us. Very much appreciated!

Anniversary dates are exceptionally hard. Allow yourself time to feel sad. You'll be surrounded by people who also loved your husband, if you can try to take comfort in that.

Thinking of you
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General Discussion / Re: Worried about getting dementia......
« Last post by Peace on June 18, 2018, 07:31:50 AM »
Peter, it sounds to me like you may have latched on to what the nurse said, and now you're watching for and tuning in to all signs. In short, like many of us with anxiety do, you're making yourself sick thinking you could be sick.

I have severe OCD and went through my own round of health anxiety. Altzheimers runs in my family on both my mom and dads sides. When I would walk into a room, stare at something, forget even the slightest thing I auto thought altzheimers. Asking my siblings about it and googled it looking for signs I had it. I then spoke to my psychiatrist about it and he explained to me that due to the OCD my mind runs non-stop and at times it shuts down completely due to the over-activity. This made a lot of sense to me and I stopped believing I had altzheimers.

The thing with health anxiety is that we keep it going by googling it, talking about it, and looking for signs of whatever condition we believe we may have. In effect by doing all that we are telling our brains something could be wrong and just keeping the fear going. The only way to beat the health anxiety is to stop all the focus on the condition concerning us. Easier said than done, but it can be done.

I like meditation in the form of going for a walk and really paying attention to my surroundings complete with touching things to check out texture. I also use the notice 5 things techniques to get my mind off my worries and calm myself.

Even if you do have signs of altzheimers or dementia, which I doubt, absolutely nothing can be accomplished by focusing on it.

Best wishes to you  :)
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General Discussion / Re: OCD Walk Toronto
« Last post by Peace on June 18, 2018, 07:23:00 AM »
 :)
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General Discussion / Re: Moving On Up
« Last post by Peace on June 18, 2018, 07:22:20 AM »
Thanks Paul and Dragonfly!  :D
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General Discussion / Re: Worried about getting dementia......
« Last post by Pleeb on June 17, 2018, 10:12:43 PM »
Pardon my fonts.....not a big deal...doesn't happen every time.
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General Discussion / Re: Worried about getting dementia......
« Last post by Pleeb on June 17, 2018, 10:11:56 PM »
I've always said "I wish I cried more".......might be good for me somehow?  I have been crying (not sobbing) more lately, including in my NP's office.


An oddball daydream I've had lately...and I don't want to lose this daydream... :o  I want to keep it "close to my chest." Not sure why.  I told my NP about it.


During a visit with my NP, I start crying, and get up to walk over to St. Michael's Emergency (two blocks away, btw).
When I get to Emergency (crying, I guess) I tell the intake nurse:  "I realize this is just a daydream, and this will never happen.....just wanted to get this off my chest:  A complaint:  My NP and family Dr. never recommend me for invasive treatment!"  (By that I mean some type of brain surgery.)
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